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Preparing for Your New Arrival: Tasks to Tick Off Before the Baby Comes

Automomming starts with, well, becoming a MOM! That’s where your life becomes substantially more hectic, and sometimes chaotic. Welcoming a new baby is undoubtedly one of the most joyous events of life, but it also brings along a whole new array of responsibilities. In addition to your current roles, you’re about to add 1, or possibly 1.25, full-time roles to your life. So, it’s crucial to streamline and delegate tasks in advance. Here’s how:
Start Automating and Delegating
Before the baby arrives, it’s the perfect time to automate as many tasks as you can. We’ve covered automation in detail in a previous post, which can serve as a handy guide to start.
Another crucial thing to do is to start transferring some roles to your spouse. As a mother, you’ll naturally take on more baby care responsibilities, so balancing out household tasks is crucial. Start with roles like cooking, emptying the dishwasher, changing sheets, and laundry. The key here is consistency – your spouse should be comfortable with these tasks and perform them regularly without reminders, well before the baby comes.
Seek Help from Family
Family support is invaluable during this time. However, setting clear expectations is crucial. The most helpful thing won’t necessarily be “holding the cute baby” (as tempting as it may be for them), but practical help like meal preparation. Consider setting up a meal schedule using a service like Meal Train, where family members can sign up to bring meals once or twice a week. This will ensure a steady flow of home-cooked meals for the initial few months.
Consider Hiring Help
If you can afford it, consider hiring and training someone now, not when you’re sleep-deprived and overwhelmed. Ideally, having someone come in for a couple of hours each afternoon, especially after dinner – your most tired point and baby’s crankiest– can be a huge relief. Just having the dishes cleaned, a load of laundry done, and the house tidied up can significantly enhance your mental health and well-being. Not to mention giving you, your baby and your husband a chance to relax and bond.
Be Mindful with the Baby Registry
Yes, baby stuff is incredibly cute. But when creating your baby registry, also think about practical items like gift cards for cleaning services or meal delivery. These can come in really handy when you’re navigating the initial weeks of motherhood.
Pre-Buy Diapers
Diapers are a definite necessity for the new baby, and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you go through them. Consider subscribing to a service like Amazon, where you can pre-buy a couple of boxes for each size. This way, you’re well-stocked for the first few months, and you don’t have to worry about running out at inconvenient times.
Assumptions
You are pregnant and nesting so I am assuming you are already WAY AHEAD ME on these:
Deep cleaning the house
- Freezing meals
- Stocking up on essentials: wipes, toiletries, sanitary pads, and easy snacks.
- Preparing your baby’s clothes
- Setting up a nursing station
- Planning your postpartum recovery (This includes purchasing recovery essentials like comfortable underwear, nursing bras, and pain relief items. Also, consider physical recovery strategies such as a postpartum exercise plan (once approved by your doctor)).
- Researching and choosing a pediatrician
- Pre-arranging childcare for other children
Remember, preparation is key to reducing stress once the baby arrives. By thinking ahead and setting up systems now, you can ensure you have more time and energy to dedicate to your new bundle of joy. Next time, we will talk about the “must haves” of the baby registry
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Modern Motherhood

I am a modern mom, I know all too well the intense pressure and high expectations placed upon us. From being the primary caregiver for our kids, to managing the household, to excelling in our careers, and still looking put together – it’s a lot to handle! And let’s be real, these expectations often lead to feelings of stress, guilt, and burnout.
Now, let’s compare this to the expectations for modern fathers. While they are still expected to provide financially for their families, the pressure to be hands-on with the kids and household duties is not as high. Although there are more involved dads these days, the expectations and societal pressure are still much lower compared to mothers. Needless to say, they are also just not as capable as us.
As a result, we see a lot of wine-drinking, yelling, angry moms… And that adds another layer of unjust stereotyping of moms (Mom juice, anyone?)
So, what’s the solution? How can moms have it all? Well, I’ve used my background in data science, technology combined with years of “momming” experience, to come up with solutions that works for me. And that’s why I started this blog! I want to share my insights and tips with fellow moms, to make your lives easier.
Welcome to Auto Mom, if I can make your life 10% better, then this blog will have served its purpose.
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Mom, the Nag

Spoiler alert: I fired myself from the role of “Chief Reminder Officer” and hired Alexa for free.
The Back-Story: When Every Sentence Starts with “Did You…?”
If you’re anything like me, the soundtrack to your mornings used to be:
- “Did you brush your teeth?”
- “Did you pack your lunch?”
- “Did you feed the dog?”
- “Did you remember your library book / cleats / trombone / sweater / insert-today’s-crisis-here?”
Somewhere between the third “Did you…?” and the inevitable eye-roll from my 9-year-old, I realized I’d mutated into Mom, the Nag. Nobody enjoyed it—least of all me—and it definitely didn’t teach my kid independence. Something had to change.
Enter Alexa: My New Digital Drill Sergeant
I already had an Echo Dot quietly DJ-ing our kitchen dance parties. What I didn’t realize was that Alexa could also become an on-call personal assistant who never forgets a single reminder and never tires of repeating herself. (A mom’s dream!)
Here’s what I delegated:
Old Job (Me) New Job (Alexa) 7:00 a.m. tooth-brushing reminder “Good morning! It’s tooth-brushing time—minty fresh smiles, please!” 7:15 a.m. backpack check “Grab your backpack and double-check for lunch, homework, and water bottle.” 3:30 p.m. after-school chores “Welcome home! Shoes go on the rack, lunchbox in the sink, then enjoy your snack.” 8:00 p.m. screen-time cutoff “Screens off in five minutes—pick your bedtime story!” (I even made Alexa’s voice British for extra authority. The accent somehow reduces teenager sarcasm by 37 %. Try it.)
How I Set It Up (Takes About One Coffee)
- Create a Kid-Friendly Routine
Alexa app → More → Routines → “+”.
Trigger: Schedule (e.g., 7:00 a.m.)
Action: Alexa says → custom phrase (“Good morning! It’s tooth-brushing time—don’t forget your tongue, champ.”)
Repeat for each key moment in the day. - Use Announcements for Whole-House Broadcasts
Instead of shouting up the stairs, I say: “Alexa, announce: Five-minute warning until we leave!”
Every Echo in the house belts it out simultaneously—no more “I didn’t hear you.” - Tie Reminders to Locations or Devices
If your kid has an Echo Pop in their bedroom, aim the “lights out” routine specifically at that device so you’re not dimming the living room at 8 p.m. - Gamify with Reminders + Timers
Set a two-minute timer after “Start brushing” so they know when they’re done. Alexa plays a fun chime instead of me yelling “Time’s up!” - Add Automatic Follow-Up
For chronic offenders (ahem, dirty socks on the floor), create a follow-up reminder 10 minutes later: “Have those socks found the hamper yet?” Let Alexa be persistent—she doesn’t bruise relationships.
The Results: Peace, Autonomy, and Fewer Eye-Rolls
- My mental load shrank. I’m no longer tracking 42 micro-tasks before coffee.
- My kid owns their routine. Because a neutral robot voice reminds them, it feels less like parental policing and more like a checklist.
- Our relationship is lighter. We chat about actual interesting things (Minecraft builds! The science fair volcano!) instead of “Did you remember…?”
Bonus benefit: My partner gets the same reminders, so I’m not the single source of truth for household logistics. Equality FTW.
Extra Credit Automations Worth Stealing
- School Lunch Countdown – Every Sunday at 4 p.m., Alexa runs a shopping list check: “If lunch supplies are low, add bread, cheese, and fruit pouches to the grocery list.”
- Medicine Tracker – Daily at 7 p.m., Alexa asks my kid if they took their allergy pill. A simple “Yes” resets the reminder until tomorrow.
- Laundry-Done Alert – Smart plug + sensor tells Alexa to announce: “Dryer finished—fold time!” No more forgotten wrinkly loads.
From Nag to Coach
Delegating the repetitive reminders doesn’t make me less of a mom—it frees me up to be a better one. I’m no longer the human snooze button. Instead, I’m the cheerleader waiting on the sidelines while Alexa handles the whistle.
So here’s your permission slip: hand off the nagging. Let Alexa take the heat, and reclaim your role as the fun, encouraging, non-naggy mom. Your sanity (and your kid’s independence) will thank you.
Have you fired yourself from “Chief Reminder Officer” yet? Drop your favorite Alexa automations in the comments below—let’s crowdsource the nagging right out of modern motherhood!
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Rethinking Household Chores: A Guide for Couples

For many households, the invisible labor of daily chores tends to land disproportionately on women. These seemingly small, constant tasks can add up, creating an unbalanced dynamic that not only impacts women’s energy and mental load but can also strain relationships. Often, society encourages women to “accept” that household chores just aren’t men’s strong suit. But this notion is outdated, unfair, and, frankly, harmful. We can—and should—move towards a more balanced approach by rethinking how we divide household labor. Your automation starts with your partner.
Delegating Tasks Without Micromanaging
A key part of building a fair division is to delegate tasks that don’t require review or rework. Try giving your partner complete responsibility for jobs like bathing the kids, filling the dishwasher, changing bed sheets, or mowing the lawn. The goal is to establish that each partner can take ownership of certain chores without the other needing to “fix” or review their work afterward. This frees up mental energy and builds confidence in both partners that each is capable of contributing equally.
Start by Learning Together
If you’re looking to approach the topic constructively, consider watching the Fair Play documentary together. It explores how couples can break down traditional, often unspoken, gender roles and build a more balanced relationship around household chores. This documentary is insightful, evidence-based, and gives couples practical ways to start these conversations. You can also visit fairplaylife.com for more resources, like conversation guides and tools that can help you address these issues together.
Ultimately, fair division of household labor isn’t just about chores—it’s about respecting each other’s time, energy, and mental well-being. By making this shift, you can create a more harmonious and supportive household where both partners feel valued and empowered.
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Simplifying Mom Life: Power of Technology

We covered what things we can easily automate in a matter of minutes in this post. Now let’s talk about the technology of it all. First thing first: please repeat after me: I.AM.NOT.SCARED.OF.USING.TECHNOLOGY, TECHNOLOGY.IS.MY.FRIEND
Please, I am begging you, don’t let your baseless fear be a deterrent to try the new technologies and make your life SO MUCH easier. Come one, these techs below are easy to use and most of them are FREE. You can do it!
AI-Powered Chatbots
AI chatbots are transforming the way we manage everyday tasks. Ask for recipe ideas, tell it the ingredients you have at home to come up with a meal plan to utilize those. Write emails with it. Design websites with it! Enter all your notes and then ask questions to remember them. Get help understanding a school topic so you can help your kid with their homework.
How to sign up:
Go to: https://chat.openai.com/Click Sign Up / Follow prompts / You are done, girl!
Online Marketplaces
Shopping has never been easier, thanks to vast online marketplaces. With services akin to Amazon and Walmart, you can purchase anything from diapers to furniture, and get them delivered to your doorstep. Some platforms even offer expedited delivery services and special discounts for families. Remember: subscription is key! For example, Amazon Prime’s quick delivery services and Amazon Family’s discounts on baby essentials are particularly beneficial for moms. Also, their Alexa service can be a personal assistant, answering questions, setting reminders, and even telling bedtime stories.
Freelance Platforms
Need help with designing a birthday invitation, writing a blog post, or proofreading a document? Freelance platforms similar to Fiverr let you delegate tasks to skilled freelancers across the globe, saving you time and energy. Get them to go curate your wardrobe based on your Pinterest board. Book plane tickets. Organize a vacation.
Meal-Kit Delivery Services
Daily meal planning is a task in itself. Meal-kit delivery services like HelloFresh come to the rescue by delivering fresh ingredients with easy-to-follow recipes right to your door, making home cooking enjoyable and stress-free.
Price Tracking Tools
Monitoring fluctuating online prices can be a daunting task. Tools like Camelcamelcamel provide a solution by tracking price changes and alerting you to the best deals, helping manage household expenses more efficiently.
Digital Pet Feeders
Taking care of a pet amidst all the daily chores can be challenging. With digital pet feeders, pets get their meals right on time, and you get one less task to worry about.
Robo-Advisors
Finances and investment planning can be a complex task, but robo-advisors like Wealthsimple have made it simpler. With a variety of financial tools and services, they take the stress out of financial planning, enabling you to invest wisely for your child’s future.
Robotic Vacuum Cleaners
Cleaning is one chore that consumes considerable time and energy. But robotic vacuum cleaners, such as Roomba, have transformed the way we clean our homes. Scheduled to clean at specific times, they allow you to focus on your family rather than on house chores.
Digital Reminders
From changing toothbrushes to scheduling dental appointments, watering plants, or reminding you to clean the dishwasher, digital reminders, akin to iCal, help you manage a plethora of tasks, making them a digital personal assistant that never forgets.
Project Management Tools
Managing a family’s shopping list can be simplified using project management tools similar to Trello. These tools allow you to create boards, add items, check them off as you buy, and even share the list with family members, promoting collaboration.
Embracing these technological tools and services is the secret to a balanced mom life. By taking over mundane tasks, they help you spend more time creating precious memories with your children. Because, as we all know, they grow up too quickly!
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The low hanging fruit: what can I easily start automating in my life?

When you’re looking to automate aspects of your life, it’s a good idea to start with the low-hanging fruit – those tasks that take up a lot of your time that can be easily automated. One of the biggest time-consuming tasks for many people, especially moms, is grocery shopping and meal planning, which happens to be one of the easiest things to automate.
- Meal Planning
Meal kits are a convenient, time-saving, and varied way to prepare meals at home, especially helpful for avoiding grocery store trips. Thankfully, there are many options available nowadays, depending on where you live. Here are a few meal kit delivery options:
Blue Apron: A well-known meal kit service that offers a variety of recipes, including vegetarian and family-friendly options. They use fresh ingredients and provide step-by-step recipe cards to make meal preparation easy.
HelloFresh: Provides a variety of meal options to fit various dietary preferences, including vegetarian, pescatarian, and low-calorie options. Their meals take around 30 minutes to prepare and use fresh ingredients.
Sun Basket: A meal kit service that focuses on using organic, non-GMO ingredients in their meals. They offer a variety of meal plans, including paleo, gluten-free, and vegetarian options.
Other options: Purple Carrot, Home Chef, Freshly, Gobble.
Bonus: If you have a preteen or teen, put them to work! Once a week, they can cook dinner! Meal kit instructions are easy to follow, and meals are easy to make.
Potential Concerns:
- $$$$ Cost: Meal kits can be expensive, but when you consider the current grocery store prices and the time you save, you will come out ahead. It’s like hiring a cleaner: you can do it yourself, but it’s worth it to hire one for your well-being. If your partner is not on board, tell them they can make dinners going forward and see if it saves money! One way we saved money was by ordering two-person meal plans instead of four. The kids eat like birds, and it helped us control our portion sizes for dinner, ultimately making us healthier.
- 🩺 🩺 🩺 Healthy Options: HelloFresh wasn’t really for us. I thought it was too family-friendly. I ended up opting for another service that I thought offered healthier options. I am sure you can find one in your area if you look hard, too.
- 👦👦👦 Kids Won’t Eat It: You should not plan your dinners around what your kid will eat. They won’t starve if they don’t have dinner, I promise! The rule of thumb in our house is if the kids don’t like the dinner we have, the only other option is steamed frozen veggies. I grab it from the freezer, heat it in the microwave, and voila! If they don’t want it, then they are done till breakfast. Put your foot down on this, not only will it encourage them to try new foods, but once they are used to it, it will cause less drama at the dinner table.
2. Grocery shopping
Well, you just took care of dinners. But what about everything else? Breakfast, lunches, staples, snacks? I have one word for you: subscription! You may need to stitch together two solutions for this one: one for dry goods and one for fresh stuff.
I use a local farm delivery for fresh produce and Amazon for dry goods. So, I automatically get things like fruit baskets, vegetables, yogurt, and bread weekly, and things like toilet paper, toothpaste, paper towels, and garbage bags from Amazon monthly or less. Of course, these are not all the options.
Here is a good selection of what’s happening:
Dry goods: Amazon, Walmart, Thrive, Boxed, Brandless
Produce: FreshDirect, WholeFoods, Shipt, Imperfect Foods
In Canada:
🍁 Spud, Fresh City Farms, Mama Earth Organics, Amazon, Well.ca 🍁3. Daily Cleaning/Upkeep
It took me some time to embrace this task, but once I did, I never looked back. Four years ago, I bought our first Roomba and it has been a game changer. It vacuums and mops the floors while we sleep. It’s the kids’ responsibility to make sure the floor is clear of toys for the “robot” every night, and they take this task seriously because they don’t want the robot to “eat their toys.” This makes our monthly cleaning routine so much easier, and waking up to a clean house is a great feeling. Roombas can be expensive, but there are many options available.4. Bill Payments and Savings
I would be surprised if most of you are not already doing this in some way. Auto bill payments and auto savings are not new, but they can significantly impact our finances by preventing outrageous late fees, protecting our credit score, and building wealth.Our minds work in a funny way; we prefer to do little bits at a time rather than investing one big chunk of time at once, even though it’s better. My favorite blogger, Tim, can tell you a thing or two about that.
Once you set up auto savings for $100 per month and forget about that money, it’s not an inconvenience for you. Your brain accepts that $100 is gone.
We will discuss these more in detail and many other things you can do to save time by automating tasks. But I wanted to start with these four because they are the easiest to implement, making them a great place to start. If you have any additional suggestions, please let me know!
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ChatGPT and teenagers: beyond school essays

Although it may seem slightly off-topic for my “auto-momming” blog, as a mom and a data scientist, I am deeply concerned about the impact of new technologies on our society, particularly our children.
ChatGPT is really buzzing these days, it’s amazing and capable of performing a wide range of tasks. A teacher friend of mine even uses it to create curriculums from scratch! We use it at work to prepopulate fields and automate repetitive tasks, and many companies employ it as a chatbot for customer service. However, we are human, and humans are always great at using technology for their end games, and that end game can be good AND bad.
I won’t delve into the current dangers of ChatGPT for kids because you can find a ton of articles on that already. Instead, I want to discuss future and potential hazards that our children must prepare for.
Gaming
You know how in open-ended games, like the ones where you talk to characters and ask questions to achieve your goals, you used to interact with human or bot characters. You would typically get a pre-selection of questions to choose from.

Image from: https://www.pcinvasion.com/mount-blade-ii-bannerlord-how-to-get-married/ Now, thanks to ChatGPT, those questions are becoming just regular, open-ended conversations. What does this mean for our kids? Growing up with this technology, they could potentially miss social cues in digital environments and struggle to differentiate between people and bots. This creates a whole new set of problems, which leads me to my second point.
Online grooming
We have all heard about kids being groomed online for sexual exploitation or worse. There are incredible organizations dedicated to digital safety and the prevention of this (My hat’s off to you, White Hatters!). It is known that grooming is something that takes months, so it is a real time investment for predators. Now, imagine if they could automate this with AI like ChatGPT? They could create multiple threads of conversations with teenagers and kids to establish the trust and grooming needed to meet in person. We already know how ChatBots can be moody and manipulative without a predator behind it, imagine the possibilities when it’s trained to act a certain way…
Scams
This goes without saying, and I think (I hope) this is more for the elderly than for kids, but ChatGPT can kick scammers’ operations up a notch. Imagine you receive a Facebook message or text from someone who claims to be a friend of your mother, daughter, husband, etc. They are in trouble and need money. Throughout the conversation, they can refer to things that only a friend would likely know, like your favorite restaurant, flower, or middle name. It sounds legitimate, right? Well, that kind of information is readily available to anyone with good internet search skills these days, and AI is easily trainable.
So, what are the things we can do to prepare our kids for ChatGPT?
- Give them a third-party resource: The White Hatter is great for that in Canada, there is Cyberwise in US as well as iKeepSafe
- Step by step digital intro: Instead of giving them a phone at 12, get them ready slowly. 8 is a good age to start texting, you can limit it with parents only, then add one trustworthy friend so on so forth…
- Discover ChatGPT together: Play with ChatGPT together, point out how its answers are different than a human, try to type things together to make it reveal itself as a bot and how it behaves.
- Encourage the flipside: Support technologies that are working to recognize an AI text vs. human.
Other ideas? Let me know in comments!